You seem to be under the impression that if you were burgled it would be OK for a Police officer to spread the news to anyone who asked. It's perfectly normal for Police to refuse to give out such information.
As for the 'that is no use to us' remark, what on earth is wrong with that? It's a perfectly straightforward remark - you're being wildly over-sensitive.
Asked if you bolted your doors, your daughter said 'yes'. The Police officer noticed that your daughter didn't unbolt the door,and said so. Again, you're overreacting.