Open up the Control Panel.
Double click on the Automatic Updates Icon.
Uncheck the box "Keep computer up to date", click apply.
This will turn off the automatic update feature.
Remember to manually download the updates though, as and when required.
Are you sure it's the auto-update that is the issue though ?
Seems a little odd.
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