Are the lights actually in the picture, if so you will always have a problem. Its like any camera in that if the lights are in frame you will get flare across the lens. Try to position the camera so that the lights are not actually in view and it may solve your problem. If the lights are behind you as you seem to be saying the camera will try to get the exposure on your face ok, but because its in shadow will overexpose whatever is behind you i.e, the rest of the room. Try turning down/off the room lights and have a lamp near or behind the monitor so that it illuminates your face.