Nero is the software you need to burn to CD/R disks. InCD is the software that is used to format a CD/RW disk. If you insert a CD/RW disk InCD will automatically start and ask if you want to format the disk. Just follow the prompts.
To take InCD off the taskbar go to Start, Run and type in msconfig and OK (or press enter) and take the tick out of InCD box. You will need to restart your computer for it to take effect.
To put InCD on your desktop depends on your OS.
In windows 98se double click my computer, then double click C: then double click programme files, then double click ahead, then double click InCD, find the .exe and right click and drag to the desktop and let go, then left click on create shortcut here.
In windows XP I don't know but someone else will advise you I am sure.