Only a few years ago online dating was that thing many of us assumed that only desperate or creepy people did, and no-one dared admit to searching for or having met their partner online; today, it's the easiest way for singles to meet new people, and it seems as though all the single ladies (and men) are doing it. There's one app in particular they're using: Tinder. Here we explain what Tinder is, how to use it, why it's so popular, and more, including why you might not be getting any interest.
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I've lost track of the number of friends who've asked me about Tinder. And I'm not entirely sure why, since I'm not single. But it just goes to show how interested are people in the dating app. I do have several close friends who use Tinder, however, so yesterday I took the opportunity to force on them a game of 20 questions in an effort to answer your Tinder FAQs. Special thanks goes to Paul, who let me have a nosey at his Tinder profile.
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How to Tinder: What is Tinder?
Tinder is an online dating app that matches couples based on their physical attraction to one another. It alerts you to other Tinder users who fall within a specified age range and gender and are within a certain distance of your location, and it lets you know whether you have any mutual friends. You decide whether or not you like the look of a person: if you do, great; if you don't, they'll never know. If you're both interested then Tinder's messaging function offers you a private chat thread in which to talk and get to know each other better. It's very much like being introduced to the hot friend of a friend in a bar, but it removes the clumsy, drunken matchmaker and the want-to-curl-up-and-die cringeworthiness from the equation.
How to Tinder: How do I get Tinder?
Tinder is available as a free app for Android or iOS; just download it from the App Store or Google Play. You'll also need a Facebook account to log in; this is necessary for Tinder to attempt to match you with people with whom you have friends or interests in common, and also take basic details such as your age and any photos you allow to appear on your Tinder profile.
How to Tinder: Why is Tinder the most popular dating app?
The people we've spoken to about Tinder like it because it's so simple: there's no 400-question registration process, and it doesn't put you in a box for - as an example - saying you're a non-smoker when actually you have been known to indulge on occasion and wouldn't particularly mind dating someone who smokes. And while personalities are ultimately what's important in a long-term relationship, Tinder recognises that when developing an attraction establishing how well suited you are to a person often comes second to the way they look. It's also perfectly suited to mobile use, such as when you're in the pub, you've had a few beers and you've got your game face on.
How to Tinder: How many users does Tinder have?
Tinder claims to have 1.4 billion swipes and 26 million matches every single day, so it's fair to say there are quite a lot of people on there.
How to Tinder: How do I use Tinder?
Tinder is a really simple app to use. Just download it, log in with your Facebook profile, specify the gender and age range of the people you'd like to meet, and how far you're prepared to travel to meet them. When Tinder finds people who match those criteria it places cards on your screen that show a large photo of the person; tap this to see a short description they've written. Below the picture is a heart icon and a cross - tap the heart if you like them and the cross if you don't - or swipe to the right if you like them, and to the left if you don't. If you like someone who also likes you Tinder will tell you that a match has been made and opens up a simple messaging function.
You'll also have to fill out your own profile. Tinder pulls some information from your Facebook profile, such as your job and education, but you can choose what to display and write out a short bio of yourself. You also need to pick a few photos to include - you can pull these either from your phone's image library or your Facebook account.
How to Tinder: Super Likes and Boosts
Since Tinder launched it's added a few new features to give hopeful singles some more options. First up are 'Super Likes' - you can Super Like someone by tapping the blue star icon or swiping up on their profile - unlike a regular attempt to match, this will immediately send them a notification that they've been Super Liked and the chance to see your profile. It's a more upfront way to try and match with someone, but be warned that some users can see it as slightly too forward. You can also only use one Super Like per day, so use it wisely.
One of the other more recent features is Boost. This is a paid option that pushes your profile to the top of the queue of every Tinder user nearby for 30 minutes, making it much more likely you'll get matches over the next half hour. A single boost costs £3.89, so they're not cheap, but you can get them at a discount by buying packs of five or ten. You can find the Boosts by tapping the purple lightning bolt icon.
How to Tinder: Tinder Plus
If you're serious about trying to use Tinder to make a match, you might want to consider investing in Tinder Plus. This is Tinder's premium, paid tier, which offers a few advantages in exchange for a monthly fee. There are a few benefits to Plus: for one, it makes Tinder ad-free. It also gives you one free Boost per month, and five Super Likes per day, rather than just one.
Plus-exclusive features are a 'rewind' button so that you can re-do your last swipe in case you accidentally went the wrong way, and the ability to change your location - this is useful if you're planning a trip and want to match with a few people before you arrive.
The biggest benefit of Tinder Plus is that it lifts the 'right swipe limit'. Normal users can only swipe right on so many users per day before they have to wait 12 hours - a way of discouraging people from trying to match with every profile they come across. There's no fixed number of swipes you're allowed, as it's determined by an algorithm based on your typical behaviour, but either way, Tinder Plus users can swipe to their heart's content.
So how much does Tinder Plus cost? Again, there's no easy answer. Pricing is determined for each user by Tinder's algorithm, with prices based in large part on your age: the younger you are, the cheaper it costs. It can reportedly range from as low as £1.49 per month right up to £14.99 per month - with discounts if you commit to six months or a year in advance.
How to Tinder: Tinder Social
One of the biggest additions to Tinder is the introduction of Tinder Social, which you can access by tapping the icon of a group of people at the top of the screen. This mode sees you join up with a few friends to form a group, and then you can swipe through other groups to find people you'd like to match with. If your group matches with another, you're taken to one large group chat where you can get to know each other and hopefully plan to meet up. In theory you can use this to find new friends to hang out with, but the expectation is likely that people are looking to set up group dates, so bear that in mind!
How to Tinder: Do I have to be good-looking to use Tinder?
Everyone is beautiful to someone. While it's true that those whose beauty shows strongly through the outside will probably make more matches on Tinder, you need only one good match to meet someone with whom you could have a very happy future.
Tinder will also do its best to help you out thanks to a feature called Smart Photos. If you choose to activate it, it will continually assess how favourably people have responded to each of your profile photos, and automatically order them so that your most popular photo appears first - taking out all the guesswork as to which photo you look best in.
How to Tinder: Why aren't I getting any interest on Tinder?
Tinder is a two-way street - you can't just sign up, forget about the app and hope people will come to you. Because the messaging system is opened up only when both parties have confirmed their interest, you won't know anyone has liked you unless you also like them. So if you want to see results, open up the Tinder app and get involved.
How to Tinder: What happens if I like someone and they don't like me?
There's no need to hide your face in shame. The only way someone will know if you've liked them on Tinder is if they like you too, then a match is made and the messaging function between the pair of you becomes active. So set your sights as high as you like - no-one will call you on it.
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How to Tinder: Will someone know if I don't like them?
Likewise, Tinder won't tell someone who fancies you that the feeling isn't mutual. That person might eventually work it out when several weeks have passed and a match hasn't been made, but the chances are they've liked a few people in that time and won't be pinning all their hopes on you. It's a very gentle way of letting down those in whom you're not interested without hurting their feelings.
How to Tinder: Will I meet a psycho on Tinder?
Only the people you've liked are allowed to contact you on Tinder, so there's no chance that you'll get a bunch of unsolicited messages; and those users you have allowed can be blocked if they get annoying or a bit creepy. But you do still need to apply the same rules on Tinder as you would with any online dating site: you'll never really know who you're agreeing to meet until you do so.
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